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Screening in Circle
August 27, 2025 by Admin 0 Comments

Ready to Screen?

Is your organization ready to kick off your developmental screening program this fall? These resources can help you brush up on how to use Sparkler to screen and follow up the families you serve. 

What is Developmental Screening?

Sparkler offers the mobile Ages & Stages Questionnaires® (ASQ®) — which help families learn about their children’s development during early childhood. The ASQs (which are published by Paul H. Brookes Publishing Co.) draw on parents’ expert knowledge about their children’s learning and development to help families, educators, home visitors, pediatricians, and others to learn about and support children’s development.

The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recommends universal screening for young children. Why? 

  • Developmental screening — coupled with play and regular interactions between adults and their children — support healthy early development. 
  • Early identification through screening is the first step toward intervention.
  • Early identification and intervention can significantly improve outcomes for children with developmental delays.

Inviting Families to Screen

The first step in the process is inviting families to use Sparkler to complete the ASQ using Sparkler.

Sending Families ASQs: When a family signs up for Sparkler, Sparkler assigns the current ASQs, based on the birthday and prematurity the family shares when signing up. As the child gets older, Sparkler assigns new ASQs and sends families in-app notifications letting them know they’re available. This means programs do not need to identify the correct interval and/or send the ASQ to families.

Inviting Families to Screen: Many programs find that it’s useful to explain screening to families so they understand what it is and why it’s important and to set expectations so that families know when they are expected to fill it out. Some programs want all families to fill out the ASQ at the start of the school year. Others want families to fill out the ASQs at particular moments in their children’s lives (e.g., at 9 months old). Many different approaches work; our only suggestion is to be clear with families so they understand what to do and when to do it. 

How to Follow Up After Screening

Once a family completes an ASQ, it’s time for the program to review the results, explain the results to the family, and help the family understand any recommended next steps. Sparkler has created a guide to help programs learn how to follow up after screening. It details the following steps: 

  1. Step 1: Get ASQ Notification to Start the Process
  2. Step 2: Review & Interpret Scores and Concerns
  3. Step 3: Reach Out to Parent/Caregiver
  4. Step 4: Talk to the Family to Share Results
  5. Step 5: Send the ASQ Results to the Family and Complete Sparkler’s Follow-Up Form
    • Share the ASQ Results Report
    • Share a Summary of Your Recommendations
    • Submit Your Follow-Up Report
  6. Step 6: Suggest Activities from Sparkler’s Library

 

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August 27, 2025 by Admin 0 Comments

Free Books for San Francisco Families

San Francisco families with children 0-5 years old can now get free books for their home libraries from Dolly Parton’s Imagination Library — a program that helps families with young children access age-appropriate, high-quality book each month through early childhood.

San Francisco families can find the sign up form on the Sparkler mobile app. Families who open the app will see a new green tile on the home screen with the Imagination Library logo on it; when they tap it, they’ll open the registration form. Fill it out to start receiving free books in the mail each month. 

Families can receive books in English or bilingual English-Spanish. Titles range from classics like “The Rabbit Listened” to new books like “Buffalo Fluffalo.” The books change each year.

Sparkler Learning is the local nonprofit partner working with the SF Department of Early Childhood and the SF Public Library to bring Dolly Parton’s Imagination Library to all San Francisco families with young children. 

Since launching in 1995, Dolly Parton’s Imagination Library has become the preeminent early childhood book gifting program in the world. The flagship program of The Dollywood Foundation, a 501(c)(3) non-profit organization, has gifted over 200 million free books in the United States, Canada, United Kingdom, Australia, and Ireland. This is achieved through funding shared by The Dollywood Foundation and Local Program Partners. 

The Imagination Library mails more than 2 million high-quality, age-appropriate books each month to enrolled children from birth to age five. The program has been widely researched and results demonstrate the positive impact on early childhood development and literacy skills. Penguin Random House is the exclusive publisher for Dolly Parton’s Imagination Library. For more information, please visit imaginationlibrary.com

Libros gratuitos para familias de San Francisco

Las familias de San Francisco con niños de 0 a 5 años ahora pueden obtener libros gratis para sus bibliotecas domésticas de la Biblioteca de la Imaginación de Dolly Parton, un programa que ayuda a las familias con niños pequeños a acceder mensualmente a libros de alta calidad y apropiados para su edad durante la primera infancia.

Las familias de San Francisco pueden encontrar el formulario de registro en la aplicación móvil Sparkler. Al abrir la aplicación, verán un nuevo recuadro verde en la pantalla de inicio con el logotipo de la Biblioteca de la Imaginación; al tocarlo, se abrirá el formulario de registro. Complételo para empezar a recibir libros gratis por correo cada mes. Las familias pueden recibir libros en inglés o bilingües inglés-español. Los títulos van desde clásicos como “El Conejo Escuchó” hasta libros nuevos como “Buffalo Fluffalo”. 

Los libros cambian cada año. Sparkler Learning es la organización local sin fines de lucro que colabora con el Departamento de Primera Infancia de San Francisco y la Biblioteca Pública de San Francisco para llevar la Biblioteca de la Imaginación de Dolly Parton a todas las familias de San Francisco con niños pequeños.

Desde su lanzamiento en 1995, la Biblioteca de la Imaginación de Dolly Parton se ha convertido en el programa de donación de libros para la primera infancia más importante del mundo. El programa insignia de la Fundación Dollywood, una organización sin fines de lucro 501(c)(3), ha donado más de 200 millones de libros gratuitos en Estados Unidos, Canadá, Reino Unido, Australia e Irlanda. Esto se logra gracias a la financiación compartida entre la Fundación Dollywood y los socios locales del programa. La Biblioteca de la Imaginación envía mensualmente más de 2 millones de libros de alta calidad y apropiados para cada edad a niños inscritos, desde el nacimiento hasta los cinco años. El programa ha sido ampliamente investigado y los resultados demuestran su impacto positivo en el desarrollo y la lectoescritura de la primera infancia. Penguin Random House es la editorial exclusiva de la Biblioteca de la Imaginación de Dolly Parton. Para más información, visite imaginationlibrary.com.

旧金山家庭免费书籍

旧金山有 0-5 岁儿童的家庭现在可以从多莉·帕顿的想象图书馆免费获得书籍,该计划旨在帮助有幼儿的家庭在幼儿时期每月获得适合其年龄的高质量书籍。

旧金山的家庭可以在 Sparkler 手机应用程序上找到注册表单。打开应用程序的家庭会在主屏幕上看到一个新的绿色磁贴,上面印有 Imagination Library 的标志;点击后,即可打开注册表单。填写后,即可开始每月通过邮件收到免费书籍。

家庭可以收到英文版或英西双语版书籍。书名范围广泛,从《兔子听了》(The Rabbit Listened)等经典作品到《水牛毛毛》(Buffalo Fluffalo)等新书。书籍种类每年都会更新。

书籍每年都会更新。Sparkler Learning 是一家本地非营利组织,与旧金山幼儿教育部和旧金山公共图书馆合作,将多莉·帕顿的“想象图书馆”带给所有旧金山有幼儿的家庭。

自1995年启动以来,多莉·帕顿的“想象图书馆”已成为全球首屈一指的幼儿图书捐赠项目。该项目是多莉坞基金会(一家501(c)(3)非营利组织)的旗舰项目,已在美国、加拿大、英国、澳大利亚和爱尔兰捐赠了超过2亿本免费图书。该项目的资金由多莉坞基金会和当地项目合作伙伴共同承担。“想象图书馆”每月向0至5岁的注册儿童邮寄超过200万本高质量、适龄的图书。该项目经过广泛研究,结果证明了其对儿童早期发展和读写能力的积极影响。企鹅兰登书屋是“多莉·帕顿的想象图书馆”的独家出版商。欲了解更多信息,请访问imaginationlibrary.com

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July 25, 2025 by Admin 0 Comments

Q&A: The Power of Summer Learning

Sparkler Education Director Dana Stewart and one of her children

Sparkler’s education director, Dana Stewart, spent a long time as a preschool teacher and school leader. She’s also the mom of two amazing young children. 

At Sparkler, Dana creates and maintains the amazing play content and parenting information in the app. She also oversees Camp Sparkler — our summer learning program, which is available for free through the app to all families which children 0-5 years old. 

In this Q&A, Dana shares information about summer learning and Camp Sparkler, and what parents/caregivers can do to promote summer learning with young children.

Sparkler: In your experience, is “summer learning loss” real for preschoolers and young children? 

Dana: Yes! I remember as a preschool teacher, we spend the whole year building up routines. By the spring, children are so practiced that they know exactly what to do in the classroom. If they go away for two weeks, it’s like they never learned the routines. When we think about summer learning loss, we tend to think about older children and academic learning, but the same principles hold true for toddlers and preschoolers. They’re just learning different things in school.  

Sparkler: As a mom and longtime preschool teacher and leader, can babies, toddlers, and preschoolers actually keep learning in the summer months? 

Dana: Yes! Learning never stops with young children. I think that’s why it’s especially important for us — as caregivers of young children — to create opportunities for them to practice the skills that we want to promote throughout the year. 

Sparkler: Why is the summer actually an important time for learning? 

Dana: I think summer offers new opportunities for learning because a lot of us tend to slow down. The hustle bustle of the school year slows; children are less busy. This gives families opportunities to really dig into their children’s interests. We’re also outside more in the summer months, which gives children a chance to explore the natural world freely in a way that is more complicated when it’s colder outside. Summer can be an especially great time to involve children in activities that focus on skills like helping others, being a good friend, or calming down when they’re upset.

Sparkler: Why have you built the Camp Sparkler program around Sparkler’s Little Kids, Big Hearts podcast this summer? 

Dana: The podcast is amazing and I’m delighted to be able to shine a light on it with camp this year. Todd Loyd, the podcast host, is a preschool teacher, and he’s so great with the kids featured in each episode. To be able to hear the children’s ideas and experiences — in their own words — makes the podcast engaging for kids. My child and I both enjoy listening — and it helps me, as a mom, to hear how my own child thinks about these big ideas related to our “hearts,” or social and emotional learning. 

Sparkler: Sparkler emphasizes play — why is play important in the Camp Sparkler program? 

Dana: Play is how children learn best. I think play is how everybody learns best. The physical experience of play is the best teacher. It’s the joyful self-directed practicing of skills that helps to crystalize new information. It generates new ideas and is the birthplace of creativity and ingenuity. The fact that play is FUN is maybe the most important aspect of play. We are motivated to play because it doesn’t feel like a chore. Playing WITH people you love is even better. 

Sparkler: People are busy — how much time does a busy parent or caregiver have to spend playing with a child in order to make a difference? 

Dana: The good news is that it doesn’t take much time at all. Even five or ten minutes a day can make a huge difference. The best is when you can spend a few minutes playing with your child and then set them up to continue playing, thinking, and processing independently for a few minutes. 

Sparkler: What are some of the highlights of Camp Sparkler this year? 

Dana: There are SO MANY new play activities, but I am especially excited about all of the music that we’re featuring this year. Benjamin Weiner and Bill English who wrote and performed the songs (along with featured podcast actors) are so great. My own kid loves the songs, and I’m sure others will, too!

Sparkler: This will be your fourth summer leading Sparkler’s summer learning program. What brings you joy about Camp?

Dana: My favorite thing about camp is creating new play activities I’m really excited about and sharing those with families — and seeing their excitement as they play them together. 

Sparkler: How can families access Camp Sparkler?

Dana: If a family already has a Sparkler account, they’ll see Camp Sparkler activities on their app home screen on July 7, 2025 through the end of August. If a family doesn’t have a Sparkler account, they should create one, linking up with their local school or program and then they’re all set. (There’s more information here.) Families can start anytime over the summer. It’s okay if they miss the first day or week. If anybody has questions, just reach out to support@playsparkler.org.

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April 30, 2025 by Admin 0 Comments

Demystifying Autism: A Q&A With A Mom/Educator

Sparkler chatted with Shenell Samuels — a mom of a five-year-old with autism who is also a teacher in a school readiness program in Hartford who serves students with autism and other diagnoses — to share her experience and insights related to autism. 

Could you tell us a little bit about your son?

 

My son is five years old. He was diagnosed when he was two and a half … We went through the Birth to Three process. They asked me if I wanted to do an evaluation because he wasn’t meeting his developmental milestones. So we did a whole evaluation. It took a few hours inside our home and they did diagnose him with autism. 

What did it feel like as a parent to go through the process?

I was a bit confident because I knew I would know how to help him to get resources. And I was also a bit worried because it’s like: would he be able to talk, communicate, work with peers?

How would you describe early intervention to parents who aren't familiar with it?

My experience with Birth to Three was wonderful from start to finish … We set realistic goals for him to work on and she did help us a great amount coming to our home, working with him to get him where he needs to be … Early intervention played a huge part with him being open to the world.

What's your goal for your son now that he's five an in kindergarten?

My biggest goal would be to have a conversation with him, for him to be talking to me more. One day, I’d like for him to be able to join a sports team. And of course, I want him to graduate from high school and college, and of course regulating his emotions. He does have big emotions … Every day we’re working toward those bigger goals. We’re working on the small goals first to have him reach those. We have small goals we can reach while also keeping the big goals in mind.

What are some of the misconceptions you encountered?

Autism isn’t an illness. The biggest misconception is that he’s a sickly kid. He’s not sickly. There are some things he’s able to do and there are some things he’s not able to do.

It's interesting that you have encountered autism both as a teacher and as a mom. Can you tell us about your work?

I was going to school to be a nurse. I took a summer job working inside of a preschool for six weeks, and after that, they were like, “We want to hire you.” And then I worked my way up … Now I have my own classroom. 

And you work with some students who have autism, like your son?

Yes. I have children on the same level, higher needs, and then some kids with moderate needs or not any at all. It’s a range. 

How has being a parent of a child with autism influenced the way you interact with the parents and students who have different diagnoses?

It has given me the confidence to freely talk with parents … I’ll ask them, “What are you seeing at home with your child because at school I might be seeing something different?” If I’m concerned, I recommend that families go to their pediatrician and see what they recommend. 

And how do you build a classroom environment that is inclusive of kids with different needs and abilities?

I talk with the kids. I’ll say, “Your friend might need a little bit of help. Can  you help them?” I have materials in my classroom, sensory materials, that can help children who are on the spectrum be more comfortable in the classroom to help self-regulate. You know, just having book and reading to the kids can help … We’re not labeling children; everyone’s included. You know, we’re all like a family here.

Do you have any other advice for parents with questions/concerns about autism?

Don’t be afraid to ask for help. That’s the biggest thing. Don’t be scared. Don’t be nervous … Talk to your child’s pediatrician, talk to friends or family, just to gain more knowledge. 

Information about Early Intervention in CT

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April 25, 2025 by Admin 0 Comments

Play This Spring with Sparkler

Play throughout the spring with Sparkler! We created a special lineup of springtime activities that can spark spring play and help children reach important early learning milestones!

  •  Appreciate the Earth
  • Stop and Smell
  • Spring Fun
  • Plants in the Garden
  • Spring
  • Plant Shapes
  • We Are Drummers
  • Nature Collage
  • Paint a Picture of Nature
  • From Seed to Flower
  • Tweety Snack
  • Spring Signs

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February 27, 2025 by Admin 0 Comments

Q&A About Books and Early Literacy With the Read to Grow Executive Director

In honor of Read Across America Week (March 2-6, 2025), Sparkler chatted with Suzannah Holsenbeck, the executive director of Read to Grow. 

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What is Read to Grow? What are some of your big programs?

Suzannah: Read to Grow is Connecticut’s premiere early literacy non-profit. Our mission is to support language and literacy skills for children, beginning at birth, and to support families as their child’s first teacher. We distribute more than 100,000 books annually to children across Connecticut through our three main programs: Books for Babies, Books for Kids and our Bookmobile.

Wow! How long have you been doing this work, and why did you get involved?

I was a teacher and administrator in various schools and communities before I came to Read to Grow. I was actually visited by Read to Grow volunteers in the hospital when I gave birth to my children at Yale New Haven Hospital, and received our newborn book “Welcome To The World!” several years before I became the Executive Director. So I come to this work from both a professional place — wanting to ensure that all children have the resources they need to be strong readers when they reach school — and from a very personal place — engaging with my own children. Supporting their development has truly inspired me to do this work.

When should parents start reading to their children?

We actually have a saying at Read to Grow: “Read to your belly!” It is truly never too early to read to your child. Your baby can hear you in utero starting around 24 weeks, and when they are born, your voice can be a really powerful soothing influence on them and when you read to them, they feel safe and secure. The act of reading to your baby also helps you! When we read to our children, it forces us to sit down and take a breath, hold them in our laps or have them cuddle up to us; our blood pressure goes down and the bonding we experience with our children goes up.

Why is reading so important for young children?

There’s a tremendous amount of brain development that occurs in the first three years of a child’s life. Our brains grow the most they’ll ever grow in our entire lives in those first 1,000 days, and when we read to young children, we can directly improve the quality of brain development occurring for the child. Babies as young as six months who have been read to daily show improved receptive language skills (understanding what is being said to them) and expressive language skills (indicating something specific with their voice or sign language). And then, of course, there are so many other benefits to reading as your child gets older, including exposure to tons of awesome vocabulary that goes beyond our day to day conversations.

Are there certain books that help children build early skills? Or are all books "good"?

It is a complicated question because there are so many different benefits from reading books and different books achieve different things, so I try to steer away from a moral or value judgement about a book. At a very basic level, we want to make sure that families know that just sharing a story with their child, regardless of the story, holds so much power for reasons I mentioned earlier. But when we consider the quality of illustrations in a picture book or the amount of varied words in a text or the overall message the book is delivering, then we start to see that not all books allow us to grow our child’s vocabulary or help them make observations about what they see or teach them about ways people overcome challenging experiences, or provide an opportunity for children to see themselves in books or see others different from themselves in stories. We also want to encourage families to pay attention to what their child is responding to and if they are enjoying a book, whatever the book may be, then keep reading it!

On that note, what's your favorite classic picture book?

This is not a fair question to someone who runs a literacy organization! That being said, I really loved Leo Leoni’s book, “little blue and little yellow,” when I was a child.

I love that one, too! What are some of your favorite NEW picture books?

There are so many wonderful books being published every year and we are lucky because we get to feature many of them in our Popcorn & PJs series at Read to Grow. A few recent books I’ve really enjoyed are “Eli and the Uncles” by Jehan Madhani, “The Yellow Bus,” by Loren Long, and “My Dog Just Speaks Spanish,” by Andrea Caceres.

We'll have to check those out! What should parents do if their children don't seem engaged in books and reading? Are there any strategies that can help?

Sometimes parents talk about how their child doesn’t want to sit still and be read to and we encourage them to read and let their child continue playing or walking around them; just because they aren’t sitting, doesn’t mean they aren’t listening. Also establishing a routine of reading books at the same time every day — maybe over meals or at bedtime — can go a long way to establishing the expectation that reading happens no matter what and over time you can work on picking books with illustrations, stories, and topics your child is really interested in. Never underestimate the power of a book that is funny or a little bit irreverent to get a child engaged.

Tell us about this partnership that Read to Grow and Sparkler have around Read Across America Week. What do you hope it will accomplish?

We are so honored to partner with Sparkler for a second year to bring you read-alouds with wonderful authors and illustrators. In addition to the read-alouds, there are activities on Sparkler that align with each story and can extend the learning for the child beyond just listening to the story. We hope that this series is helpful to families and childcare providers during Read Across America week and beyond!

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February 20, 2025 by Admin 0 Comments

Ways Families Can Support Dental Health

Learn how you can support dental health throughout early childhood. Caring for children’s teeth is important for their dental health and overall health and wellbeing — and it’s important to build healthy habits early! Parents can find these tips in their Sparkler mobile apps — and providers can find them in the Library of tips and share them with parents/caregivers from there. 

Baby Teeth

Because baby teeth are the blueprint for permanent teeth, caring for them is important. As soon as baby is born, parents/caregivers can start to build healthy practices. Wipe your baby’s gums with a soft washcloth after feedings. Remember not to put babies to bed with a bottle filled with milk or any other sugary beverage. 

Caring for baby teeth will protect your baby’s emerging teeth from decay, promote healthy gum development, and create early habits that encourage proper dental care as teeth grow. In order to prevent dental problems, your child should see a pediatric dentist when the first tooth appears, or no later than their first birthday.

Teething

Teething — when teeth start to grow in — is a significant milestone in a baby’s development. For most children, teething starts between 4 and 7 months. It can be challenging for both parents and babies!

For tips on how to handle this stage, visit this resource from the American Academy of Pediatrics.

Track your little one’s smile milestones with this baby teeth eruption chart from the American Dental Association.

Is your child’s thumb sucking habit sticking around? Learn when to let it be and when to step in to keep their smile on track from this American Dental Association guide.

Building Independence with Toddlers

As children grow into toddlers and beyond, they are ready to take more responsibility and become more actively involved in their own dental health. Here are some strategies to try to create a strong and healthy routine:

Building a Brushing Routine

Creating a calm and consistent bedtime routine can help families promote healthy habits. The “Brush, Book, Bed” method — a bedtime routine of brushing teeth, followed by a story, and then bedtime — a simple yet effective framework, recommended by pediatricians. Here’s more from the American Academy of Pediatrics on how to structure children’s nighttime routines.

Brushing as Children Grow

As children grow, make sure that they’re continuing to brush their teeth twice a day for two minutes each. 

This video from the American Dental Association has handy tips for parents: 

  • Set a 2-minute timer
  • Listen to a 2-minute song
  • Make a reward chart and give your child a sticker for every successful brush

Here’s a video from Sesame Street to help your child prepare for an upcoming dental visit. 

Dental Health and Overall Health Are Linked

Did you know that nutrition has an impact on children’s oral health? Children need strong, healthy teeth to chew their food and speak clearly. The American Dental Association recommends eating fruits and vegetables, whole grains, low-fat dairy, and lean proteins — and avoiding fruit juices and sugar, which can contribute to tooth decay. Learn more from the ADA here.

Be a Tooth Model for Your Child

Parents/caregivers can help children learn healthy oral health habits by modeling them.

Even starting in pregnancy, this is important. If you’re expecting or planning to be, make sure you’ve visited a dentist in the last 6 months.

Sparkler collaborated with Connecticut’s Dental Health Partnership to create a lineup of resources for families in honor of National Children’s Dental Health Month this February. If you’re a Connecticut family with HUSKY health insurance, there are free resources available to you to help keep your child’s teeth healthy. If you need help finding a dentist, making an appointment or getting to your appointment, call: 855-CT-DENTAL (855) 283-3682, M-F 8am – 5pm.

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February 20, 2025 by Admin 0 Comments

Play for Healthy Teeth!

Learn about dental health!

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February 11, 2025 by Admin 0 Comments

Ask a Dentist!

This February, in honor of National Children’s Dental Health Month, Sparkler chatted with Dr. Alison Nicholes, a dentist in Hebron, CT, who has been caring for children’s dental health and hygiene for 18 years. 

 

Sparkler: What are some of the big questions you hear from parents of young children? 

Dr. Nicholes: I think the biggest questions from parents are usually about timing. Parents wonder when to start brushing and when to schedule first dental visits. 

Sparkler: When should brushing start? 

Dr. Nicholes: The sooner you start with any sort of dental routine for your children, the sooner they adjust. Dental behaviors are habits that need to be formed and reinforced daily. Wiping a baby’s gums in the evening with a clean washcloth or a very soft introductory toothbrush can help start this process. Once there are teeth, a very soft infant toothbrush is appropriate. I like to advise patients to initially start with a very small amount of non-fluoridated practice toothpaste so a child learns to associate a taste with brushing. The amount of paste should look like a grain of rice to start. When a child masters being able to spit out the paste, you should switch to a paste with fluoride to help strengthen the teeth against decay. 

Sparkler: When should children visit the dentist for the first time? 

Dr. Nicholes: Sometimes we hear from our patients that their physicians advise children to start at their first birthday. This can be helpful if you need advice about dental care and habits at home. Typically, a child at age two is more successful in a dental visit and for some kids, it will be even a bit older than age two that they will be willing to sit for their first cleaning. Bringing a child to their sibling’s cleaning or even your own can be a great tool for modeling the behaviors needed to have a good visit at the dentist. If your child can’t cooperate for their first cleaning, usually just more time is needed for them to grow and mature. I recommend trying again in six months. 

Sparkler: Is there anything parents should do or avoid to support their children’s dental health? 

Dr. Nicholes: Parents who model regular dental hygiene at home for themselves have an easier time helping reinforce these habits for their kids. Brushing and flossing your own teeth with your child benefits you both. 

Sparkler: What are the guidelines around pacifiers for dental health? Or bottle use? 

Dr. Nicholes: In an ideal world, kids would discontinue use of bottles and pacifiers around their first birthdays. This is not what I typically see many families do as there is a lot of stress and anxiety around the loss of these comfort objects. Limiting their use after the first birthday is the best for their dental health. If your child is older and is still working on this, don’t beat yourself up. Start by setting a date in the very near future and work on a plan to being fully pacifier and bottle free.

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February 3, 2025 by Admin 0 Comments

Q&A About Fairness With Judge Sanchez

A Focus on Fairness

Sparkler’s Little Kids, Big Hearts podcast focused on “fairness” in January. 

We started the month with an episode about fairness, in which three kids (Bodhi, Aubrey, and Will) helped two arguing Qook-a-lackas through a process of “qook-a-lation.” They listened to both sides of the argument, asked some questions, and then shared some ideas to help the Qook-a-lackas find a fair solution.

We wrapped up the month with an interview with a real-life judge who knows ALL about “qook-a-lation,” Judge Gabriel P. Sanchez, who has served as a United States circuit judge of the United States Court of Appeals for the Ninth Circuit since 2022.

Our podcast host, Todd Loyd, chatted with Judge Sanchez about what fairness is and moments in his life when he’s learned about fairness. Judge Sanchez shares tips for kids who want to spread fairness and who want to follow in his footsteps and become real-life judges.

Judge Sanchez was nominated by President Biden and confirmed by the Senate in 2022 — an exciting first for our podcast! He’s based in San Francisco, but hears cases across California, Arizona, Alaska, Hawaii, Idaho, Montana, Nevada, Oregon, and Washington. Judge Sanchez has had a remarkable career advocating for criminal justice reform, public safety, and civil rights, while also serving as a pro bono supporter of farm workers’ rights. 

A Conversation With Judge Sanchez

Todd: What does fairness mean to you and why is it so important in your work as a judge? 

Judge Sanchez: That is a great question. It’s a big question. Let me start by saying that as a judge, I work in a courtroom and courts are a special place in our country. They’re a place where people go to resolve their conflicts and disagreements. And when I think of fairness in a courtroom, you know, in terms of doing my job, I think of a few different things. First, I think of fairness as giving people a chance to tell their side of the story, to let them feel heard and understood and that everyone has the same right in a courtroom to be able to express themselves and tell their story. And that’s the type of fairness that we think of as for the process of resolving disagreements. Fairness also can be thought of as relating to who is the one making the decision, the judge or the jury, and whether they are unbiased, meaning they don’t have an opinion or a preference for one side before they make their decisions. So fairness involves that decision-making process. And then the last thing that I think about in terms of fairness is in the outcome. I’ll give you an example. Suppose there are two kids that are disagreeing over who should have a cookie. And each one of them thinks that cookie belongs to me. If they came up with a process where one of the kids got to divide the cookie in half, and the other one got to choose that half of the cookie first. They might come away with it, both thinking that they got an equal half of the cookie and they’ll both feel satisfied. So there can be fairness in the way that things are resolved where both people feel good that they got something out of it. Those are aspects of fairness that come in my job. And I think that translates, you know, for kids and schools and everywhere else. 

Todd Yeah. I love how you said, that we all just want to be heard and understood. I feel like that is a universal, that is what kids want, adults want. I really like how you phrased it like that. 

On our episode about fairness that we recorded earlier, the kids helped two arguing Qook-a-lackas through a process of qook-a-lation. They listened to both sides of the argument, asked some questions, and then shared some ideas to help the Qook-a-lackas find a fair solution. Does that sound familiar? 

Judge Sanchez: Very familiar. I heard the episode and I thought it was wonderful. 

Todd: Thank you. Yeah, those kids were great. Could you tell our listeners what it’s like to be a judge in real life? What happens when you’re hearing a case? 

Judge Sanchez: Well, many of the same things, believe it or not. It’s very important to be a good listener. In a courtroom, it’s important to take in the facts and what we call evidence and to not make a decision or make up your mind before you’ve heard all the evidence.

So it’s important for both sides to get to tell their side of the story as we talked about before and why they think that they should win or prevail. And for the judge or the jury, the decision maker at the end of the day to make up their minds and to ask important questions and resolve the dispute. Now, one thing I should add is I am an appellate judge. So there’s something a little bit different with that. In our country, we have three levels of court systems. There’s the trial courts that people are most used to seeing on TV where there’s a judge and a jury and it’s in a trial happens. Above that is the appellate court, which is where I sit. And then beyond that is the Supreme court. And the role of the appellate court is not to have trials, but to review what has happened in a trial and decide if there were any errors made and if anything else should be corrected or sent back. So one of the things about fairness is even if a person loses in a trial, they have the opportunity to appeal and come to our court and to make their arguments to see if they should win at a different level of review. And then finally, above me is the United States Supreme Court, and then they get to have the final say on these things. So part of my job as an appellate court judge is to have oral arguments and to listen to the attorneys talk about what happened in the trials below and whether anything should be correct based on that. 

Todd: I see. Well, how do you make sure that you’re considering all the facts and reaching the fairest — you mentioned before unbiased — the most unbiased decision? 

Judge Sanchez: At the Appellate court level, we have what’s called the record all the facts that came up in the trial and we have the briefs from the attorneys and they present their side of the story for their clients and we go through all of those details and At oral arguments we ask the questions of the lawyers so that we can get clarification. And what I try to do is keep an open mind about everything all the way until we file our opinions. I try to understand what is going on. I try to understand from the perspective of each side, what their view of the cases. And then at the end of the day, make up a decision based on what I think the law says and how it should apply. And then only until I hit send and we send those opinions to file is when I finally made up my mind completely. But until then, we try to keep an open mind until the very end. 

Todd: That sounds hard sometimes to be unbiased. Why do rules matter when it comes to fairness and how do you decide if rules are fair or unfair? 

Judge Sanchez: So we all have rules, whether it’s in school or with families or our government. And when our government creates rules, when it’s a legislature or Congress, we call those laws. And the reason why that’s important is because the rules are what we all decide in advance about how to behave together in society or in a family or at school. And the reason why that matters is when there are disagreements between people about things, about rights or whether someone was harmed by someone else. We want the judges to decide those disagreements based on the rules, based on the laws that are before us. We don’t want a judge to decide things just making it up on their own or just, know, I just, because I say so, we consider that arbitrary and we don’t want that to happen. So we want to have our decisions be based on something that we’ve already agreed upon beforehand. And those are the rules and laws. The second half of your question, how do I decide whether the rules are fair or not. It’s kind of a complicated question because in some ways judges don’t decide if the rules are fair. We let the legislature or Congress make the rules and then our job is to try to apply them and say which are the right rules that we should apply to this disagreement. Sometimes though, because we live in a country with a constitution that is above our laws, we have to decide if those laws that were passed violate our constitutional rights.

And in doing that, when we examine those issues, those are some instances where judges can decide if a rule is fair or not, you know, if it follows the requirements of the constitution for equality or other things like that. 

Todd: Yeah. I was just thinking how rules change over time, can change. How have you ever had to make a tough decision as a judge or in life where being fair was really hard? And how did you figure out what the right thing to do was? 

Judge Sanchez: Part of the job is sometimes deciding cases based on the law and what the facts say, even if I don’t want it to turn out that way. And that can be hard. There are certain cases where personally I might feel, man, I wish I could rule in a different way because I feel sorry for what’s happening to someone or where it may feel tough that they’re not going to win. the law is clear and it tells me that I have to decide a case in a certain way.

And one of the strengths of our court system is that we want judges to decide things based on those rules that we’ve talked about in a fair way and not based on our judges own personal preferences. And so sometimes that can mean that I won’t be happy about the decision that I have to make, but I have to make it anyway. 

Todd: You know, in my classroom, we’ve been talking a lot about Martin Luther King, Jr., and talking about when we see things that are unfair of how we can have a responsibility as a citizen of the world to stand up for when we see something that’s unfair. And I’m wondering if you can share a story about a time when you saw someone stand up for fairness and make a big difference. 

Judge Sanchez: One of my favorite moments as a lawyer was that I and other lawyers, you mentioned the farm workers. We sued the state of California to try to help protect farm workers who were suffering from heat. They were working on farms that didn’t provide them with enough shade or water. And many people were getting sick and some of them were even dying. And we wanted to make sure that the state was keeping up with its obligations to create better rules and more enforcement of those rules to protect those farm workers, those people that didn’t have a chance to be able to get out from under the hot sun, and to protect themselves when the temperatures got too high. And I’ll never forget driving into the central Valley in California where it gets very hot. And I was actually listening to a audio tape about the civil rights era and Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. And how those civil rights leaders went out into the communities and talked to people and tried to understand what their needs were and to help them. And it was very inspiring. And he has always been an inspirational figure for me and I thought about that as I was helping to try to do something for the farm workers. 

Todd: Yeah, thanks for sharing that. What advice would you give kids about being fair, even when it’s hard? 

Judge Sanchez: I think being fair is about giving people a chance to tell their own side of the story and being good listeners and not jumping to conclusions, but really thinking about how someone else might feel about something and try to understand their perspective. I don’t think fairness means that you get to have the outcome that you want. Fairness to me is not that you get to have what you wanted, but fairness is about trying to understand other people and seeing if you can meet them halfway, if you can come up with a solution that both of you can benefit from, or at least that even if you can’t do that, that the other person will understand that you tried and that you listened to them and you respected what they had to say even if you ended up disagreeing with them. That can be hard to have those conversations, but I think they will understand that you’re trying to be fair with them and they’re trying to be fair with you.

Todd: You’ve mentioned this a couple of times about being a good listener. And I think, you know, as an educator for young children, trying to model language to give children to have the confidence to stand up for themselves and express their needs and desires or their likes or their dislikes. But I think what’s almost more challenging and difficult is that that other person has to listen and so that’s the other part of it and being a good listener is sometimes even more challenging to teach and to do, quite frankly.

Judge Sanchez: I’ve learned this as I’ve gotten older over time is, one of the important things about listening is also remembering that you may not have the right answer. You may think you know what the right answer is, but sometimes by listening someone can teach you something and you can have a light bulb go off and say, I hadn’t thought about it that way. so listening gives you a chance to pause and say, am I really right about what I think is the right answer? And sometimes you may be, and sometimes you’re not. But the listening is also thinking that you don’t always have the answers. 

Todd: How can kids help make the world a fairer place, even if they’re small, even if they’re young?

Judge Sanchez: I think kids can do so much. I think being fair and being respectful of each other can happen everywhere. If you’re on the playground and someone is being left out, or if someone feels like they’re not being heard, you can step up and say, wait a minute, let’s hear what they have to say about something. You can give other kids a chance to be able to say what’s on their mind, to help others listen to them and to give them a chance to have that perspective. We all can do that. And I think kids are sometimes the best ones to do it because they’re so honest and they tell you whether you want to hear it or not. 

Todd: Yeah. And oftentimes seekers of justice, children, they really feel it when they feel something is unjust, either for themselves or for their friends. I see that a lot in my classroom of kids sticking up for other kids, not more so than themselves. 

Judge Sanchez: I think kids develop a sense of justice really early on. It’s wonderful to see and it’s important. 

Todd: When you were little, was there a moment when you learned about fairness in a way that has stuck with you? 

Judge Sanchez: I do remember something. When I was in elementary school, my mom and I were living with my grandparents, this was in Los Angeles, and we were far away from the school that I was attending. And so we had moved to a closer neighborhood and we were living in the home of this woman who was wealthier and retired. And one day I was waiting to be picked up and everyone else had gotten picked up. And my mother arrived in our little tiny Toyota Corolla, stuffed with our belongings. And I didn’t know what was going on. And she was crying. And what I found out was that the person that we had been living with wanted to, she wanted my mom to pull me out of school to go on a trip to Europe. And my mom said, “We can’t do that. He’s in school.” And so she was fired. And so she lost her job and we got kicked out of our home that we were living in, in all in one fell swoop. And that has always stuck with me because I remembered how unfair that felt, and how helpless I felt at that moment. It was part of the reason why I think I wanted to become a lawyer and ultimately a judge to be able to give people a voice, to be a part of the legal system they give to protect their rights from something that felt unfair to give people a chance to block that sort of thing from happening. So that has always stuck with me and that was an early moment for me that I’ll never forget. 

Todd: It sounds like you have a good heart. It’s probably a great quality in a judge. This is really my last question and I think it’s an important one is do you have any advice for kids who want to follow in your footsteps? 

Judge Sanchez: I think my main advice is to be kind to others and to give people the benefit of the doubt. I think to be a judge means to give people a chance to convince you of something before you form an opinion about them. And so as long as you are willing to see what another person’s perspective might be, then it helps you understand maybe there was a disagreement or a misunderstanding, but that they are coming from the right place. And so I think that’s a good quality to have and to walk through, and of course being curious about learning things and enjoying learning because you have to learn a lot and study a lot to become a judge. But I think at the end of the day, maybe one of the most important aspects is giving each other that decency and belief in each other. I think lately we’ve let our differences pull each other apart a little bit. And I think differences can be a way for us to learn about one another and to grow together that way. So that would be the advice that I would give kids if they wanted to be a judge one day.